Why Most Men Are Bad In Bed‏

by Alexander Allman

NOTE: Being "great in bed" is not just about the things you do right - but also about not making the embarrassing mistakes that really turn women off. To make sure that you never do, check out the full scoop HERE

Most guys are clueless in bed.

But don't take my word for it - ask any woman that you are good friends with. Better yet, ask a woman that is bi-sexual (so she has something to compare men to).

Most men WANT to be good in bed. Most men WANT to be able to please the woman that they are with.

So it's not surprising that one of the MAIN reasons they keep screwing up is that they just DON'T KNOW any better.

The first reason that so many men fail in the bedroom is that they think that women want the same things that they want.

This is a natural, human trait. We never REALLY know what other people are thinking, so in trying to figure it out, we sometimes assume that they are thinking the same thing that WE would think in the same situation.

This can lead to a lot of misunderstandings.

People who lie a lot always think other people are lying, and people who never lie are often duped because they think that other people are probably telling the truth.

A man who loves sports cars might talk forever about his new car trying to impress his date...while her eyes glaze over in boredom because she just wants to talk about her great new shoes.

And likewise, a man might start to think that a woman wants the same kinds of things in bed that he does.

This works badly in both directions...

First it works badly because he thinks that the rhythm and intensity that he uses when he jerks off is probably what she wants when he is making love to her... and he thinks that the level of passion or quiet will be the same for her... or that she will be in the mood from the same things that get him in the mood.

Lucky coincidences DO happen... but rarely THAT lucky, and many of these things just aren't going to line up.

It also works badly in the other direction because he assumes that the signals she is sending to him, and things that she is doing are WRONG if they are not what HE would do.

For example, if she slows him down or resists taking off her panties, he may think, "if I were turned on, my underwear would be coming right off now, so she must not be turned on."

Unfortunately, she may be VERY turned on, but slowing things down and resisting a bit is part of what she ENJOYS in the bedroom.

But it's too late, he's decided what it means (wrongly), and feels hurt or rejected and decides that he'd rather roll over and go to sleep.

That is one TINY example of literally hundreds of things that can go completely wrong when a man thinks that a woman should respond the same way that he would in the same situation.

Okay, moving on...

The second big way in which men fail in the bedroom is when they know a bit more than the first guy - they know that women behave very differently from men, so... they go out and read up on WHAT WOMEN WANT.

Strangely, this can turn out to be an even bigger mistake.

These guys read books or magazine articles about "what works on women in the bedroom." They check out women's magazines and see what the women are talking about - what they say they like. They hear about some technique that "drives all women wild."

The problem is, they now have this model in their head about what one particular woman likes, and, as it turns out... women are wildly different in their sexual preferences from each other too.

In fact - even the woman who wrote the article about what women like (speaking for herself, of course) might not like what SHE herself wrote about on some other day or with some other man.

Because, for a woman, what she likes can change drastically with her mood and emotional state. And it can change even MORE when she is with a different partner.

With a different man, the chemistry changes - she doesn't feel comfortable with the same type of love-making, or there is something deeper she suddenly wants to explore because her heart is more open to it.

But the guy that read the article - he is sure he has information that is good because it was written by a WOMAN. She surely knows what women want!

So he does what he's told to do in the article and he can't understand why it doesn't work on his girl. Maybe he becomes frustrated with himself that he can't get it right, that he must be doing something wrong or that there's something wrong with him...

Or maybe he gets frustrated with his woman, thinking that she's just not normal or that she won't "open up" enough to get the amazing pleasure that the magazine article promised him that she'd experience.

Either way, it's a recipe for bad sex and it could harm your relationship.

There's another problem with taking someone else's advice on what you should do in bed with your girl... and that problem is that it might be "inauthentic."

This is what happens when you get so caught up in the tip, trick, or technique, that you forget about the living, breathing girl that is with you...Or you even forget your own pleasure and enjoyment.

It's like trying to put together a piece of furniture with an instruction manual. Not exactly the emotional state you should be in when making love.

A good way to avoid this problem:

Only try out a sex tip or technique when it's something that, when you read it, really turns YOU on.

In other words, if it's something that makes you think, hmmm, that really sounds hot! Then go ahead and add it to your "play list" because it will come across as something that is authentic to YOU.

If, on the other hand, you are doing it just because someone told you that it would get your girl off "guaranteed" then it will just seem weird, and she'll probably sense that you are "trying out a technique" instead of being involved in making love with her.

Okay, I saved the best (worst) for last...

The number one worst thing that men do that really sets them up for failure in bed is...

Getting caught up in their own dumb insecurities.

First of all, let me explain that the reason that I'm calling them dumb is that these insecurities are usually both the chicken and the egg... the insecurities are not based on anything in the real world - they are based on...themselves... Insecurities based on insecurities.

Like worrying that maybe you aren't attractive or sexy enough (she's in bed with you, isn't she?)

Or worrying that your dick isn't big enough (According to every anonymous survey on the subject, men who's penises are exactly average in size rate themselves as "below average")

Worrying that you won't be able to get it up, or that you won't last long enough (worrying about it is the EXACT CAUSE of these problems).

Worrying that you won't be good in bed (again, one of the main causes of not being good in bed, right here).

These worries all CAUSE the worries that guys worry about!

On a personal note... I get that these insecurities are not easy to handle and that the problems can be VERY real to the guy experiencing them... it's not like you can just shut them off with a switch...

But if you want SPECIFIC and COMPLETE ways to deal with each of these individually, you can find it all HERE

But for now in this Newsletter I will be talking about ONE, incredibly powerful method for overcoming ALL of these insecurities... and all of the other mistakes I talked about above too.

The problem with these insecurities, other than the fact that they are self-perpetuating, is that they cause all sorts of problems in the bedroom beyond the obvious ones.

When you are experiencing feelings of anxiety or insecurity about sex, it can make you UNWILLING to be authentic and "present" with your lover.

To a guy in a serious relationship or marriage, that is really, really damaging.

But even for a guy who is going to bed for the first time with a new partner, the wall that he creates by being afraid to be his authentic self deprives both him and the woman from the kind of powerful sexual pleasure they could be enjoying.

As I mentioned in the "first mistake" above, women are not wired the same way that men are in the way they enjoy sex.

For a guy, the level of authenticity in the girl that he is with may not be all that important on his list of what turns him on. (After all, many men "pay" for sex - not authenticity there! But that would be very, very uncommon for a woman).

For a woman, your authenticity, your ability to completely be yourself, is the BIGGEST turn on. It feels to her like CONFIDENCE, and it earns her SEXUAL TRUST, which allows her to really surrender herself to the experience.

For a woman, experiencing an orgasm isn't something that YOU DO to her, as much as something that she ALLOWS based on her feelings of trust and connection.

When a guy is feeling insecure, she tenses up and feels what she might describe as "weirdness". Basically, she'll be uncomfortable.

Here is a simple FACT that most guys just don't understand:

A man who is comfortable with himself, who accepts his own sexuality and is confident about what he wants to do and what he enjoys in the bedroom, is, for a woman, going to be GREAT in bed...even if he doesn't know ANY special techniques, even if he doesn't have a big penis, even if he can't last very long.

Okay, so now that I've delivered on the subject line of "Why Most Men Are Bad In Bed," I'll be a good sport and give you a great, powerful tip that can overcome ALL of these typical problems that guys have.

One tip...? For ALL of them...?

Yep!

It's what I refer to in my book as "Paying Attention" or "Becoming Present".

And it is the MASTER KEY for great sex.

Regardless of what you want to call it, what it basically means is that you "tune in" to the woman you are with. You "pay attention" to how she is responding and what she is feeling.

This is MUCH deeper than just listening to what she is telling you.

Consider Paying Attention to be a two-way system...

In the first direction it is really listening to her body, her breathing, her muscle tension, her moaning, the changing temperature of her skin...so that you can tell, in real time, EXACTLY what she likes and doesn't like... what's working and what's not working...

In the second direction it is completely selfish as you tune into her body, her smell, her texture, her breathing... for your own pleasure...for soaking up the enjoyment of her feminine sexuality.

Combined, this is the basic foundation for truly incredible, mind-bendingly passionate sex.

Paying Attention solves the first mistake that men make, because instead of just assuming she responds the same way that you do... you actually tune in and notice exactly what she is REALLY responding to.

You don't think at all about your ideas of what she SHOULD like... you just explore and let it happen in the PRESENT. You are completely in the moment.

Paying Attention solves the second mistake that men make because if a technique you read somewhere is working, you can enjoy it and follow it to where ever it leads you...

But if it's not working, you'll know right away and won't just keep pushing it, waiting for something to happen that is never going to happen.

Most often it PARTIALLY works - there's something about it that she seems to respond to, but other things that she isn't...

And when you Pay Attention it just flows in the right way... when you are "tuned in" you just keep what is working and then go forward from there, exploring her body in the ways that she responds to and the ways that that turn YOU on the most at the same time.

And Paying Attention solves ALL of those pointless insecurities that almost all men feel at one time or another... because they really do come from themselves - they are created as you think about them...

But THE MIND CAN ONLY FOCUS ON ONE THING AT A TIME.

So when you Pay Attention to HER instead of whatever insecurity you were thinking about, it just dissolves - disappearing back to exactly where it came from in the first place.

Insecurities are about thinking about PAST failures or ideas you gave yourself in the PAST...and worrying about what might happen in the FUTURE or how she might respond or you might fail to perform in the FUTURE.

Paying Attention takes your focus away from the PAST and away from the FUTURE, and puts you firmly in the PRESENT.

Which is why I sometimes call it "Becoming Present." (A term I heard from a yoga instructor).

As you get better and better at this basic technique of Paying Attention, you will create deeper intimacy with your lover as well. And then really amazing things begin to happen...

Things that, seriously, you wouldn't even believe me if I wrote them in a Newsletter.

Paying Attention is the single best "first step" that I can recommend to any guy who wants to improve his sex life... whether he is dating and wants to really impress the woman that he is with and show her that he really "knows what he is doing,"...

Or if he is married for years and wants to rekindle the spark, intimacy, and intensity of his love.

I don't think any guy should do everything I say or take all of my suggestions.

I just think you owe it to yourself to TRY this out and see how it fits for you. And in this particular case, basically every guy I have shared it with has told me that it really had a huge, positive effect on their success in the bedroom.

Once you start down this road you are really going to want to take it up to the next level...

I've got a lot of other things for you to try out once you've built this basic foundation - things that will take her sexual pleasure to a place that, really, is almost unbelievable.

Here's where to get more information on EXACTLY what I'm talking about:

Try Revolutionary Sex Now

Check it out now and see what you think. Not everything is right for every guy - so just take a look, and make your own decision.

Thanks for continuing to be a subscriber. I hope that I am bringing value to your life and your relationship in every email.

Your Friend,
Alex

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How would you enjoy suddenly having the woman in your life seeing you as a "human pleasure machine"?

I'll tell you, as much as I love women... my biggest thrill is still the moment after she finishes having a powerful, full-body orgasm, knowing that I was the one who gave it to her. I love that magic moment after we're done when she looks at me with both awe and respect. It's the look that says, "Thank God I finally found a guys who gets it!".

You see, any guy can have regular sex, but when it comes down to how satisfied your woman really is with you in bed, it all comes down to your ability to give her a powerful orgasm on a regular basis. That's where you really earn your respect as a skilled lover.

And that's why I believe you're gonna LOVE this.

I Told Her To Dump Him!‏

by David Shade

Here are questions from three more women on my list.

EMAIL from Kristie:

Is there a Masterful-Lover reference for women? I would love to learn about ways women can bring out the Masterful-Lover in their men.

MY COMMENTS:

If a woman has to bring out the Masterful-Lover in her man, then he wouldn't be a Masterful-Lover.

Part of being a Masterful-Lover is that the man takes the initiative and takes the lead and brings out the sensual creature in his woman.

So, to answer your question, CHOOSE WISELY!

EMAIL from Karen:

David,

My question, or comment, is that I have been dating this man for 5 years and I have never had an orgasm with him, nor have I with any other man, or with my ex-husband. I have faked every single orgasm that I have ever had with a man. And not because I am a cruel person, quite the opposite, I just don't want to hurt their feelings.

Now don't start feeling sorry for me and thinking I have NEVER experience and orgasm, because I have experienced many incredible orgasms, but all through masturbation by myself, and all involved a vibrator.

I guess I do have a question, and that would be: is there a way for me to achieve these same wonderful orgasms when I am with a man? Please don't tell me to be honest with this man now after 5 years because I know him and it would bruise his ego for life.

In answer to your first question to me, no I was not close to my father as a child. I remember my father as always working. Unfortunately I didn't become close to my father until well into adulthood, and sadly he passed away a few years ago.

In answer to your second question, I was never sexually abused, but I was definitely emotionally abused and also physically abused by my ex-husband.

MY COMMENTS:

The relationship between a little girl and her father builds the girl's self esteem and her ability to be emotionally close to a man. That window of opportunity was not there for you.

Such women often find themselves with worthless men of low self esteem. Such women sometimes allow themselves to be abused, to a breaking point.

Since you were emotionally and physically abused by your ex-husband, you find it hard to trust a man. If you cannot trust a man, you cannot surrender to him. If you are incapable of emotional intimacy, you cannot become close to him. And thus, you probably won't orgasm with him.

And you are continually strengthening your dependency on aggressive vibrator stimulation.

And now you have found yourself in a situation where you can't even take the honest route to fix it.

What a tangled web we weave, when we practice to deceive.

Karen, as difficult as it is, you need to see a therapist in person who can help you with your trust issues. And you absolutely must make the decision to stop deceiving and start being honest about the situation you find yourself in.

Do not assume the victim mentality. Assume responsibility for what your future will be.

From here on out, CHOOSE WISELY. And be honest with men and with yourself.

EMAIL from Mary:

David,

I received your newsletter in which one of the questions about a threesome was addressed. My boyfriend of several years (or should I say "friend with benefits") has been trying to get me to have a threesome for quite sometime... a FMF threesome, and it has been the source of some very sexy sensual conversation for us.

I have to admit that it peaks my interest very very much and I feel there is just enough bi-curiousness in me that with enough courage and encouragement someday I may just follow through with it and the talk may turn to reality. But there is something holding me back, and I think I finally figured out what it is.

I think it is the fact that this man just doesn't treat me with the respect that I feel that I deserve, nor does he give me the time physically and emotionally that I feel that I deserve. So therefore I am feeling... "Why should I?"

If I am going to enter into something which I feel is this serious (because for me it would be) it is going to be with someone that respects me and has my total respect. This may be something that you might want to address in one of your future newsletters. It may be of interest to a lot of men, because I certainly know this to be a major fantasy for a lot of men out there.

Thanks for your time David.

MY COMMENTS:

Of course you deserve to be treated with respect. You have heard me talk at length about respect. It is the basis for anything meaningful.

But you have also heard me talk about how you must always respect yourself, which means that you do not associate with people who do not treat YOU with respect.

DUMP HIM!

Ok, that was the short answer. Now for the more in depth discussion.

What concerns me is that you continue to see him even though he does not treat you with respect. Even in a FB arrangement, both people can and should treat each other with respect.

And you ask that he give you the time physically and emotionally that you feel you deserve. Those things are possible in a FB arrangement, but they are more typical of a "relationship."

And then you say you have been seeing him for several years. That's a long time for a FB arrangement.

You called him your "boyfriend" and then your "friend with benefits."

Something tells me that HE thinks it's an FB arrangement and is milking it for all he can, but you are holding out and hoping for more. You are being self deceiving on that point.

Dump his ass and go out there and CHOOSE WISELY! Find someone who you are going to have lots of fun having threesomes with.

But your email does illustrate that there are women out there with just enough "bi-curiousness" to discuss the eventuality of engaging in Threesomes.

If you have someone you want me to tell you to dump, I've made it easy for you to ask. Just go to my "Ask David Shade" page on my website and enter your question:

http://AskDavidShade.com

When I receive your question, you will receive a link to listen to my most recent interview. And if your question is on-topic, I will personally answer your question in email.

In my next newsletter, I show you how I use to make my fantasies become my girlfriend's fantasies! Very covert stuff!

Give women incredible pleasure,

David "Dump His Sorry Ass!" Shade

P.S. Remember to send me your success stories! Those stories ALWAYS get a personal response.

Send it to me at the address below and put SUCCESS in the subject line.

success@masterful-lover.com

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Has the love of your life left you, or are they still with you but have stopped being attracted to you? Has your sex life slowed down or died, or has the romance in your life become a thing of the past?

Do you ache to have them find you so attractive again that they can't get enough of you? Do you want - more than anything - to have them so hopelessly attracted to you that they want you all the time?

Well the answers to your wishes are finally here! We show you exactly what you can do to rekindle their attraction to you! And it's so easy once you learn the real laws of attraction. You will be amazed at the measure of attractiveness that YOU can reach once we reveal these secrets to you on how to gain back their attraction.

It's time you stopped feeling like a housemate and started feeling like the sexy, attractive, mate magnet that you are! Here's how!

MySpace Hottie of the day - DJ Lady Tribe

Today, let's meet DJ Lady Tribe, a disc jockey and glamour model from Los Angeles, California. Born Nikki Shamdasani in Hong Kong to a Japanese mother and an Indian-Hispanic father but raised in Los Angeles, Tribe was immersed in the culturally diverse mecca of underground graffiti artists and muralists from a very young age. It was there that the famed female graffiti artist first picked up a mean streak and wrote her name on a wall, realizing a passion and obsession that would consume her life for the next 9 years. Tribe began her artistic feats at the ripe age of 13, presenting her art in various forms all over the city. Beginning with simple tags on the interior of local busses, she soon found herself addicted to the notoriety that came with her small five-letter posts, as well as the respect that came from her fellow artists. Eventually, the young adrenaline-seeking artist began endeavors that even her male counterparts would never attempt. Tribe would hang off of busy freeway overpasses, bombard moving busses, and climb the tallest billboards, all for the sake of her art.

It wouldn't take long to realize that Tribe wasnt just a name that she wrote, it became her purpose in life. A spray can became as familiar as a pen or pencil in her hand, and without her art tools she felt empty. Her art would be an escape from the grind of daily life, a freedom of expression, and her claim to fame. Unfortunately, it would all come at a price. Tribe drew as many enemies as she did comrades. People who were jealous of her fame, wanted her name, or just didn't want to accept that a female was creating murals in places they didn't think of first. Not to mention the police department, who raided on her family's home. Despite all the hardships and conflict, Tribe will never hesitate to say it was all worth it.

Even though she has surpassed all her initial dreams of being a known Los Angeles graffiti artist, she continues the passion that began so many years ago as one of the youngest, hottest female D.J.'s in the fierce Los Angeles nightclub scene, DJ Lady Tribe is coming up the ranks in this male dominated profession.

Her experience includes pumping up the crowd at some of the hottest clubs in Los Angeles. She also spins in almost every major venue all across the country and around the world. She's opened for several hip-hop acts and performed on a number of mixtapes. Her website receives over 15 million hits monthly . Most recently Fox News heard about her and aired a story about her and her life. She's been featured in national TV Shows, major magazines, music videos and major motion pictures including Fast and Furious. She's come out with five mix CDs and continues making more to this day. She has worked with multi-platinum artists like Twista .The Game, 50 Cent, Fabolous, T.I., Vida Guerra, Pitbull, Dr. Dre, and Snoop Dogg just to name a few .She is currently one of the headling DJ's for Hot Import Nights and Dub magazine. She is the host for La Onda Tv (LATV) Latin hip hop show.

DJ Lady Tribe is currently working on her own mixtape DVD. In addition to her work on the turntable, she is also a visual artist who has had her art displayed and sold in several galleries. Representing hip hop, she's not just a pretty face; she's a woman with skill and ambition to make it to the top.

If you would like to know more about this bangin' beatmaker or listen to some of her dance tracks, check out her profile at http://www.myspace.com/djladytribe.

7 Types Of Guys Women Can't Resist

By Andrea Madison

Have you ever wondered why some guys have all the luck when it comes to women? It's no secret that certain archetypal males have been proven over and over to be irresistible to women -- and it's not simply because of their good looks or a well-defined six pack.

The truth is that women tend to be attracted to certain personality traits and so, naturally, they flock to the men who possess them.

Below are seven of these "ideal types" of guys that women are drawn to, and an explanation as to why these guys are so appealing. But don't freak out or permanently alter your personality if you don't fit into any of these categories exactly -- women will see right through that.

Ideally, you should exude some traits from each of these different categories; in fact, you probably already do. With a quick perusal of the list below, you should be in much better shape to understand what women are looking for, and most importantly, to make sure that you fit the bill.

1. The Romantic Guy

He believes in classic romance. He is constantly bringing her flowers and chocolate and lighting candles during dinner. He calls her often to let her know he is thinking about her and looks into her eyes and tells her how he feels.

Why he is so irresistible: A woman loves to feel appreciated, and the romantic guy makes this happen. He uses romantic gestures to show her he is thinking about her. As an added bonus, she feels free to reciprocate and act on her own romantic tendencies.

2. The Confident Guy

He is totally secure and sure of himself. He is assertive in public and gives off an aura of power and control (within reason of course, as the "cocky guy" is not on this list). In a relationship, he doesn't get jealous of other men; he doesn't feel threatened by his girlfriend's male friends or coworkers.

Why he is so irresistible: Women are attracted to confident men. Consider this: If you think you are great, she will probably be influenced to think the same. The confident man doesn't seek approval from women, and this makes them want him even more.

3. The Artistic Guy

The artistic guy is spontaneous and lives for the moment. Often, he will use his creativity to woo her, such as with a song he has written about her or a painting he has made for her.

Why he is so irresistible: Every woman wants to feel unique and special. There is no better way to make her feel this way than to use her as your muse or your source of inspiration. She is intrigued by the artistic guy's creative mind and especially by the way he incorporates her into his art.

4. The Foreign Guy

He comes from a faraway exotic country; he might have a cute accent or a unique way of seeing the world. His social customs and everyday behavior can be a little quirky, but he always manages to come off as uniquely charming. Note that you don't have to actually be foreign to fit into this category. If you are well-traveled or speak many languages, you might be able to pull off the charm as well as any sweet-talking foreigner.

Why he is so irresistible: Charisma, charisma and charisma. There's not much more I can say about this one; it's just that mysterious je ne sais quoi that is so alluring. Women often choose this kind of guy if they are curious about the world, but most of the appeal comes down to a fascination with dating someone from another culture.

5. The Free Spirit Guy (aka the Bad Boy)

The free spirit guy goes where the wind takes him -- and the wind usually takes him on some kind of wacky adventure. He might ride a motorcycle, or he might skip work to take her on a last-minute road trip, but this guy doesn't worry too much about the consequences; he just sees where his own devices take him.

Why he is so irresistible: Every woman wants a bit of a rebel (within reason, of course). She loves his carefree attitude and hopes that it will rub off on her too. The bad boy spirit adds an element of youthfulness to the relationship and she loves to try taming him -- although she knows she'll never actually succeed.

6. The Intelligent/Witty Guy

He instigates conversations that are intellectually stimulating and listens to what she has to say in response. He makes her laugh with his clever sense of humor and has an uncanny ability to make politics interesting. He can shoot the breeze with her for hours and it will never get boring.

Why he is so irresistible: As time goes on, your hairline may recede and your buff body may soften, but if you can keep her interested, you've won half the battle. An intellectual connection is a big part of what sustains a relationship and if you can show her that you've got that, she'll be hooked pretty quickly.

7. The Considerate Guy

He holds open her car door and pulls out her chair. He foots the bill for dinner and makes sure to offer her dessert. He always asks her out with reasonable notice and picks her up at her door. He is generally sensitive to how she is feeling and when she is ready to go home.

Why he is so irresistible: Surprised? You probably think that nice, considerate guys never get the woman, but consider this: Once a woman has gone through her share of the bad guy, the rude guy and the not-calling-her-back guy, she will likely reevaluate her priorities. It takes a bit of maturity on her part to realize this, but eventually most girls come around and realize that they want a guy who will treat them well in the long run.

A Word of Caution

Don't take any of these character types to the extreme or try to be someone you're not -- it will be way too obvious.

The key to success here is to keep in mind why women like the character traits outlined above and what kind of gestures they appreciate. Then, mix them up and see which of these traits and gestures you are most comfortable with. With just a little bit of effort, you'll be able to find more than a few irresistible qualities within yourself -- and accordingly, she'll be easily wooed by your newfound individuality.

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Why You Never Have To Chase Women‏

by David Wygant

Recently on my blog, I posed a question to all my readers --

I gave them the choice of two places and asked them in which place they would rather be.

The first choice was an island in the middle of the ocean so absolutely beautiful, enchanting, amazing and mysterious that everyone wants to come to it.

The second choice was to be on a boat chasing the waves all day long, looking for the next wave and looking for the next big adventure that's going to make you feel good.

Let me tell you something.

Men who answered the second choice and saying they'd rather be on the boat, are men who are constantly chasing.

They're always looking for something that doesn't exist.

They tend to be looking for a fantasy.

If you're always chasing the next best thing it means that you're not present with what's happening in the moment.

You're not aware of what's happening in the moment.

You always think there's going to be a bigger wave, a better wave, a more clear ocean, and a deeper ocean.

What happens is that instead of attracting people, you're chasing them.

You're one of those people who go around chasing people all day long.

You haven't learned the art of attraction.

You haven't learned what attraction is really all about, so what you do is chase.

You see somebody, you chase them, but then you don't relate to them because you're looking for the next "better" thing.

When you're an island, i.e., you're secure, you're sensual, you're erotic in your passion and you're mysterious, people are attracted to you.

When you walk around as an island that's full of confidence and radiates great energy, then everybody wants to come and touch you.

Everybody wants to sit under your tree. Everybody wants to go hang out on your beach. People want to party in your bars. People want to hang out with you in every which way.

The reason for this is that islands are more interesting and have different depths to them.

There's the dry side of the island. There's the wet side of the island. There's a sunny side of the island. There's a cloudy side of the island. An island has emotional depth.

On the other hand, all a boat knows how to do is to go fast or slow . . . and nothing in between.

When a boat is just cruising, most people get bored and they want to go fast again.

Conversely, an island has so many different places to go and so many different things to see.

So you want to be a diverse island.

You want to learn how to attract.

Most of you don't know how to attract. Most people chase.

If you want me to show you how to TRANSFORM your entire dating life step-by-step and how you can develop the true inner confidence that will allow you to effortlessly attract women every day and everywhere you go, click here to find out more:

http://www.davidwygant.com/mens-mastery-audio-series.html

Also, be sure to watch for my future newsletters where I will be revealing more SECRETS and TIPS for creating the incredible dating life you want.

Until next time ...

Your friend,

David

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Have You Ever Wondered...

* What do women really think when you approach them?
* Do women REALLY want sex as much as men do? (And if they do, why don't they act like it?)
* Why do women always go places in groups - even to the bathroom?
* What exactly are women attracted to in a guy? (Hint: It's NOT always his looks!)
* How can you get a hot girl interested in you even when she has tons of better looking guys around her?
* How do girls prefer guys ask them out on dates?
* Just how far are women willing to go sexually?
* What are the simple things guys do that get women incredibly aroused?
* What are the secrets to keeping relationships strong and healthy?

If you've ever wondered what the answers to these and many other questions are, then this may be the single most important web page you've ever read!

MySpace Hottie of the day - Karen Zavack

Today,let's meet Karen Zavack, a fitness and glamour model originally from Merrick, New York but now living in West Palm Beach, Florida. Ever since this Long Island native could remember, Karen had always been interested in the world of modeling and acting. She would flip through the pages of magazines and think to herself, "why aren’t I in there?" But it wasn’t until she moved out to Hawaii in 2001 for a few months until her dream started coming true.

While out in Hawaii, Karen was approached by a photographer who wanted to take pictures of her for a local glamour site. She was photographed for the first time, and from that moment her career took off. She appeared in a number of magazines including FHM, Maxim, Lowrider and American Curves as well as a series of bikini and lingerie calendars. He very trim and buff figure naturally lent itself to being featured in a number of fitness magazines, and she soon found herself working as a spokesmodel for several fitness nutrition and supplement companies.

Karen keeps herself busy with her modeling career, buw when she does have some free time, she loves going to the beach, surfing, playing softball, soccer, volleyball, Frisbee, roller blading, biking, skiing, working out, and traveling. One of her many goals in life is to travel all around the U.S.A.

If you would like to know more about this heavenly hardbody, check out her profile at http://www.myspace.com/karenzavack.

Do You Want "Just Friends" or To Take Things Sexual?‏

by Savoy and Dahunter

So everyone is buzzing about "rapid escalation" and "same night lays" and the Love Systems instructors who have developed the techniques to make it all possible for even "average guys."

But the more we feed you with tips on rapid escalation, teasing, role plays, seduction, friends with benefits, direct game, handling tests, and turning things sexual, the more emails I get asking for more, more, more...

So, I got one of our rapid escalation and one night stand experts (who goes by the name "Dahunter") to talk about one of the most powerful techniques we use and teach on our bootcamps - called sexual hoops.

Sexual Hoops - by Dahunter

There are three kinds of hoops we use in Love Systems. Use these once you get some attraction going:

1. Exaggerated/Unrealistic Sexual Hoops

The first hoops should be clearly not 100% serious. It's like a cartoonish illustration of you having sex with her; it's supposed to be funny, a little bit out there, but not enough so she could say anything about it. In other words, it's a joke that happens to convey your intentions in a socially-appropriate way:

For example:

DAHUNTER: "I haven't told you this but I'm a master at the hidden arts of kama sutra."

HER: "Hahaha, what?"

DAHUNTER: "Yeah, did you see the girls that were following me earlier? They're the girls that I've slept with. They follow me everywhere; they just can't get enough. It's kind of annoying but I don't blame them. Once you go Dahunter, you never go back."

Or:

DAHUNTER: "See those girls? They're my wives. That one there in particular is crazy in bed. She doesn't look like all that but under the sheets she's freaky."

I submitted a bunch of routines like this (the above are examples of very short routines) to the Love Systems Routines Manual Vol. 1 and the Love Systems Routines Manual Vol. 2.

2. Direct Sexual Hoops

These hoops make your intentions clear, but they avoid a potentially awkward and state-killing pause by quickly disqualifying and "releasing" the tension.

It's similar to the Qualification process. In Qualification, you help her "win you over" and then you give a big compliment... but "release" the tension with a disqualifier. Qualification is covered very well in Magic Bullets and even better in a couple of my favorite interviews - Qualification by Sinn and the more advanced Issues in Qualification by Braddock, Mr. M and Sphinx.

For sexual hoops, the disqualifier should push her away just a little bit.

For example:

DAHUNTER: "Just so you know, I'm going to try to hook up with you. You should run away; you're too nice, I would just do bad things to you."

HER: "I'm not too nice!"

But without a disqualifier, here's what it would sound like:

DAHUNTER WITHOUT LOVE SYSTEMS: "Just so you know, I'm going to try to hook up with you."

HER: "Well, you can try, but I don't know how far you'll get."

Here are some better examples of sexualization with a release:

DAHUNTER: "You know, you're kind of cool. Like how you [insert] and even if I wasn't trying to get into your pants, I still think it'd be cool to hang out with you."

DAHUNTER: "You know, I'm gonna try to hook up with you. You should go that way."

DAHUNTER: "You know, you should really get away from me. I'm bad news."

HER: "Why?"

DAHUNTER: "Because if you stay any longer, I'm going to try hook up with you."

DAHUNTER: "You're hot... do you have a sister that I can hit on?"

3. Fantasy Hoops

Once you've gotten through the first two hoops, you can test the ground on common, deep (but usually unspoken) female sexual fantasies - usually involving being dominated or ravished. This will only succeed if you've done your work with the smaller first two hoops and if the vibe is "on."

In contrast to the direct sexual hoops, here the disqualifiers will be softer, but with occasional harder disqualifiers thrown in to keep things interesting.

For example:

DAHUNTER: "I'm going to ruin you for all men."

HER: "Why?"

DAHUNTER: "Because I can't stop thinking about doing bad things to you."

Or:

DAHUNTER: "I would so take you home and ravish you so hard, you wouldn't be able to walk straight for the next couple days..."

HER: (Visualizing what you just said)

DAHUNTER: "Oh my God, what are you doing to me? I'm a nice person, I can't do this, I want to be a virgin until I get married."

Or:

DAHUNTER: "You know what I would do to you, I would put your legs over here (indicating her shoulders), I would get on top of you and completely dominate you while I was taking you really hard."

HER: (Absorbing your comment)

DAHUNTER: "Oh no, wait, I'm not that easy. I gotta go; I don't know what you're doing to me but I better go get a drink or something."

DAHUNTER: (Starts to walk away... interrupts himself and comes back)

DAHUNTER: "Okay, come with me, let's get a drink, but let's be good. I don't know why but I'm just drawn to you for some reason... stop trying to seduce me. I want to be a priest one day; I can't have sex."

Commentary

If you do the hoops correctly, she will be turned on and a same-night encounter is on the agenda.

You took her through the first hoop, which is playful sexual introduction, and she accepted it.

You took her through the second hoop, which is grounding your sexual intentions to reality and showing her that you're "for real," and she accepted it.

Then you took her through the last hoop, and you played on her fantasies and got her really turned on (and did some push/pull), and she accepted the frame.

So what's next?

Solving logistics and getting her home, of course. That's a whole topic in itself, and there's a great interview that is SPECIFICALLY focused on getting her home. Check it out here:

http://www.lovesystems.com/cd33

Plan ahead!

One of the great things about the Love Systems Triad is it forces you to deal with logistics before they become bad. You DO NOT want to be the guy at the end of the night standing in the parking lot when her friends are waiting for her saying "so, um, do you want to do something now?" That guy does not get the girl.

The Logistics and Taking Her Home interview covers this in a lot of detail, so I'll just add one of my personal favorites. In the middle of the conversation, find something cool that you could invite her to do afterwards: show her pictures of your most recent trip, a set of turntables, it doesn't matter. All you need to do is give her an "excuse" to leave with you without introducing the logical state break of "are we going to have sex?" Even if you know she wants to...

Avoiding state breaks is the key to seduction - the Avoid/Blur/Distract model for avoiding state breaks is in Chapter 10 (Seduction) of the book Magic Bullets:

http://www.lovesystems.com/magic-bullets

Dahunter

To learn more from Dahunter, contact us about individualized or telephone training. Or check his interview (with Braddock) on teasing and attraction:

http://www.lovesystems.com/cd30

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When The First Kiss Just Isn't Happening

by Scot McKay

Has this ever happened to you? You meet a woman you like, and everything seems to be going well.

She smiles, flirts and laughs at your jokes. You find yourself naturally holding hands with her...and she even nestles herself into your arms as you watch movies together.

But NOTHING more. No first kiss. No hot sexual tension. NOTHING.

What's up with that?

How are you supposed to diagnose what the issue IS, let alone solve it?

Well recently a reader named Matt wrote me a letter talking about this very subject, and I've posted a video response to it on my Edumckaytion blog. Take a look:



I think there's a solid chance my answer will surprise you.

Let me know what you think by leaving a comment on the blog. I'd love to hear your opinions and any "been there don't that" stories you have.

And I'll talk to you again soon,

Be Good,

Scot McKay

Want to hear more?

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You know, for years I wanted a "secret trick" to influencing women.

How many times have you ever tried to pet a cat, and it ran away from you the first ten times you tried? You may have been able to scratch its head after a few tries, but it would take darn near FOREVER for that cat to warm up to you and let you get close...

And then you'd wonder - why the heck did the cat have to go through all THAT just to finally let you make friends? It seemed like such a waste of time and energy when YOU knew you were safe.

The same thing is true with women, isn't it?

They put up a natural defense that is such a waste of time when we're trying to build up trust.

I mean, WE know we're safe, but SHE doesn't. And we end up wasting days, weeks, and even months trying to prove otherwise so that we can get her to let us in...

Whether you want a woman for a night or for a lifetime, you MUST know how to get a woman to open up to you and feel the chemistry.

I was so tired of working up my courage to go talk to an attractive woman, only to end up with her as my "friend" instead of lover...

I wanted to just be able to say a few "trigger" words and be able to get a woman interested in me. Kind of like knowing the secret handshake that would ignite a woman's attraction.

Hey, what guy wouldn't like to know how to break the attraction code with women to make things easier, right?

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You see, the way these guys put this information together helps you to get past a lot of the natural "junk" that women put up as a natural defense.

Well, these two guys are BIG names in their fields. One comes from the world of dating advice, who's helped thousands of men with his dating techniques programs. The other one comes from the world of hypnotherapy, helping people use the power of hypnosis to conquer their fears.

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MySpace Hottie of the day - Summer Daniels

Today, let's meet Summer Daniels, an import model and dance singer from Los Angeles, California. This SoCal sweetheart has been in the modeling arena since the age of five, when she was entered into a number of local and regional beauty pageants. She would later begin her full-time modeling after high school, working first as a spokesmodel for various brands such as Boost Mobile, Amp Mobile, Monster energy drink, Muscle Milk, and others, but she later became a model in the import auto and motorcycle circuit, where she would eventually appear in magazines such as Modified and Super Street Bike. In 2006 she was featured in Stuff magazine where she was listed as one of the 101 Hottest women online.

She also is an avid go go dancer who appeared regularly in clubs around Southern California and Las Vegas, It was while in one of these clubs that she hooked up with a few friends to form her latest venture, Speaker Junkies, a dance/electronica band. She is currently their lead singer, and they have released a few singles on MySpace. In addition to her modeling and msucial ventures, she has appeared in a low budget horror movie and on the VH1 realty TV series Rock of Love Bus.

If you would like to know more about this sensuous songbird or listen to tracks from her band Speaker Junkies, check out her profile at http://www.myspace.com/summermorgan.

Be The Man Not The Manipulator

by Michael Marks

Guys: This is a most important message!

I'm not sure if you have ever been hurt along the way to trying to meet a fantastic woman, but if you have, then I can share some awesome news with you, and some really powerful tips for getting a great woman.

If you say no to the pick up artist messages, if you say no to the manipulator stuff, you are saying yes to being a better man, the kind of man that attracts a great woman.

Let's get right to it:

1. THE PAST DOES NOT EQUAL THE FUTURE

If a woman in the past treated you horribly, this does not mean that all women are this way. In our human desire to AVOID pain, we often learn the WRONG lessons from the past.

So for example, if a woman mistreated us, then we as men often try to get the 'upper hand' by learning 'player' or 'pick up artist' tactics or 'control' tactics that boil down to things like pretending you are not interested or even being cold or cruel, or by alternating between being 'hot' and 'cold', showing interest then showing lack of interest, etc.

This same 'game' is often played by women who have been hurt by men as well.

The bottom line is that these games boil down to MANIPULATION. This is the very OPPOSITE of being THE MAN, because "The Game' is the product of INSECURITY and the product of FEAR.

The key is to become a better MAN, not a better MANIPULATOR.

All manipulative tactics ultimately results in something called MUTUALLY ASSURED DESTRUCTION, or MAD.

So manipulating a woman will result in the nuclear destruction of your relationship or attraction between each other.

So too, a woman manipulating you will result in MAD - Mutually Assured Destruction.

It's too bad that so many men and women are ignorant of this, but the wise men and women who appreciate this fact are able to APPRECIATE the power of trust and integrity and love, and no matter how badly they have been hurt in the past, they have learned that the answer is NOT to manipulate each other- for it always leads to MAD in the end.

You will find love again, you will find a fantastic woman, but you must take this giant step of maturity and emotional growth and courage.

You must become THE MAN in the most true and deep sense.

2. THIS DOES NOT MEAN TO BE A DOORMAT

Of course, being good to a woman does not mean that you should allow any woman to abuse you.

In fact, if you accept abuse, you have to take responsibility for it, since no one but you allows yourself to be abused. You have to be strong enough to move ON from the wrong woman so that you can find the RIGHT woman.

This leads me to my NEXT point:

3. THE POWER OF NO

The power of NO is actually the title of a book as well. What it means is that you have to realize that NO can often be a very POSITIVE thing.

So, saying NO to the WRONG woman, means the chance to say YES to the RIGHT woman.

If you say YES to the wrong woman, you are going to be wasting your energy and focus and this means you will be in effect saying NO to the RIGHT woman.

So, learn to say NO to the things that are NOT what you want.

Don't let WEAKNESS make you say YES to the WRONG things. Saying yes to the wrong things means you will be distracted and not even SEE the opportunities for the RIGHT things, the right woman, the right life, etc.

This also includes YOUR development as a man who is truly congruent and who is strong, passionate about integrity, and who is inspiring- so this means saying NO to the WRONG types of music, NO to the wrong types of MOVIES, NO to the wrong types of MESSAGES.

If you bombard yourself with the message that women are all a certain negative way, that will filter your perception and make you see things in a very distorted way. So you can see how certain types of music might not be productive.

But if you say NO to the pick up artist messages, if you say NO to the manipulator stuff, you are saying YES to being a better MAN, the kind of man that attracts a great WOMAN.

If you bombard yourself with messages that say you are not worthy or that you are not enough, you will FEEL that way, so you can see how certain men's magazines that try to constantly make you feel insecure would only harm you.

On the other hand, by saying NO to this stuff, you can then make CONSCIOUS choices to see the RIGHT movies, the right music, the right books, etc.

I saw a FANTASTIC film at the theatre called "Earth" and it was inspiring, it was a documentary about nature and how majestic the natural beauty of Earth is, including the natural struggle of how animals go about their daily survival.

I'd way rather listen to "Scarborough Fair" than 99% of what is on the radio. I'm not telling you what to watch or listen to or read, but I am saying that YOU should be conscious and make informed decisions of what you take into your mind- it's no different and no less important than what you take into your stomach as food.

It's the food of your MIND.

In life you will constantly have CHOICES, but most people don't even REALIZE this. They end up DOING things and ACCEPTING things because they aren't even AWARE of what is going on- for example, they have no idea how harmful the wrong messages and wrong entertainment and wrong environments are.

But the reality is that no one is FORCING you to do things, or accept things, or listen to the wrong messages.

In religion, myth, and folklore, you ever notice how there is a certain common thread, which is that nobody MAKES you do anything- sure there may be the "villain" the "snake" the "seductress" etc, etc, but the lesson they keep on trying to hammer home is that it is WE ourselves who must make the right decisions.

The fact that every culture on Earth and every civilization has come up with very similar stories and mythologies (see Joseph Campbell's "The Hero With A Thousand Faces") is a hint to a universal truth: To live a better life, we have to learn what to say NO to, and what to say YES to.

So, for example, any time you feel the temptation to do something that goes against your principles just to impress a woman, realize this is TEST for YOURSELF- this is your chance to prove to YOURSELF that you are the MAN.

Realize that doing ANYTHING that goes against your principles, just to impress a woman, will only attract the WRONG woman. And by NOT giving into this, you will become even STRONGER in the right ways, which will make you stand out that much clearer from all the other wrong guys when you might the RIGHT woman.

She will see that you are absolutely clear on your values and that you are exactly the kind of man she has been looking for.

This leads to my next point:

4. SCREEN FOR THE RIGHT QUALITIES IN A WOMAN

To me, it's never been about dating tons of women, or getting "notches" on bedposts. It's always been about searching for that super high quality, magical combination of traits that makes for a great woman.

If you allow tons of the WRONG women into your life, you will pollute your mind and emotions and you will require a longer emotional detox process to clean it all up so you can be READY for the right woman.

Too many guys are so focused on getting a woman into bed, it's as if these women are already perfect without even being checked out personality-wise.

When "checking out" a woman, don't just check out her body, check out her personality and her values. Check out how kind she is, check out her compassion, check out her strength of values, check out how disciplined she is, check out how strongly she is committed to doing the right thing, check out if she is willing to be a true PARTNER or just looking for you to do everything.

Check out how strongly she is able to RESIST the pressure of the crazy values preached by many people out there.

Dating is important, so that you PREVENT yourself from getting into a relationship with the wrong woman. Think of dating as a SECURITY check where you are SCREENING to prevent the wrong woman or women from getting into your MIND and your EMOTIONS.

Dating is about finding out who this woman is INTERNALLY and emotionally.

5. GET INTO THE RIGHT STATE

There are all kinds of ways of getting into the right emotional state so you can be at your best when approaching a woman and having a conversation with her.

The best way for you to get into the right emotional state is to physically DO something, because when your body MOVES, you actually change your emotions. Motion creates emotion.

And to be even more precise, the best actions to do are the things that you BELIEVE in.

So let's say you believe in charity, then go out and FIND someone to give a buck to. You will FEEL better and you will also be CONGRUENT to the right values, on a subconscious lever you will be showing this stuff through tiny subtleties in your demeanor. It's almost as if a woman will be able to read your mind and know what kind of person you are--all because you will be in the congruent emotional state to what you just DID recently.

If you believe in HEALTH and vitality, you can go WORK OUT and approach women after.

If you love music, then listen to your favourite music and MOVE to it. It will change your STATE, there is no way you can be in a negative state when moving to music you love. You don't have to even call this 'dancing' what counts is the NATURAL MOVEMENT that it inspires in you.

You can do all the above, you can do something different, but the key is to take PHYSICAL action and DO it.

Ever notice how the best singers don't just say the words but truly put their heart and soul into the song? They make the words dance on their tongues, they make the words soar with emotion into the air. They aren't just trying to get the song over with, they are milking every last word and syllable and having pleasure and fun with it.

And when you talk with a woman, don't talk about things that you don't care about- it will be lifeless and boring. And don't fake it either- instead, talk about positive things and fun things that you really DO care about. And even MORE importantly, LISTEN with genuine INTEREST in wanting to know more about this person rather than just wanting to get this person's number or anything else.

6. GET A LIFE YOU ARE PASSIONATE ABOUT

Too many guys are just trying to learn to FAKE being a cool guy with women.

It's not about being anything with women, it's about being the best MAN you can be.

So when I hear about guys who are learning from "pick up artist" types who teach them to pretend they are busy, i.e. "after you get the woman's number, make sure you tell her you can't meet her that night because you have plans- this will show her you have a life and that you are hard to get" it really makes no sense, since the truth is you really SHOULD be a man with a plan, a man with things on his plate, with meaningful goals.

This way, you never have to PRETEND you are busy with things, and you also actually DO have things to talk about that you care about, that are positive and interesting, and these things also help give you perspectives that you can lend to helping HER perspectives widen as well.

So for example, if you are talking to her about some book she is reading, and she tells you something about ancient history or the character in the book or the story or whatever, you will have RICH PERSPECTIVES and thoughts that you can SHARE with her as well on the very thing she is talking about, and you can also help her see that you UNDERSTAND her and that you can relate to what she is saying.

Learning 'pick up lines' and learning to pretend things like the dating gurus and pick up artists like to do, is no way to develop a powerful connection and a powerful attraction from a woman to you.

7. HOW WOULD YOU BEHAVE IF YOU RESPECTED YOURSELF TO THE MAX?

I say this because it's so easy to think that you are LESS than you really are.

Forget about women for one sec- this has to do with YOU, not women:

How would you behave and speak and carry yourself if YOU knew you were worth a BILLION BUCKS?

Would there be DOUBT in your voice?
Would there be weakness and apology constantly in your voice?

How would you respect your own TIME if you knew it was DAMN VALUABLE?

How would you WALK and hold yourself if you knew you TRULY MATTERED on this Earth?

Start walking, breathing, and making DECISIONS in your life based on the fact that you ARE worthy.

If you DON'T do this, you will NEVER even GET to the point where you can SEE just how MASSIVELY this affects your actual RESULTS in the real world in every way- in business, with women, with friends, family, etc.

And if you haven't yet downloaded my book, 'Get A Great Girl,' then definitely do that now. This book will lay down the foundation you need for meeting and attracting a woman who is the 'real thing', and it's here.

And I'll see you again soon...

Sincerely,

Michael

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She's Just Not That Into You

by Doc Love

Reader's Question:

Hey Doc,

I have read all of your articles but not your book yet. I do agree with you that a man has to remain a man by not letting go of himself and who he is; he should not fall into the trap of catering to a woman’s every need and not getting 50% back. I am a nice, good guy who seems to be taken advantage of a lot because I not only take girls out, I also cook dinners for them, am receptive, forgiving, honest, and loyal.

Here’s my situation: I dated Suri for over a year. She was very independent and had a nine-year relationship before me, which was a red flag (either commit or get off the pot is the way I see it). However, I gave her the benefit of the doubt. Things were great until she had to move away from the city -- where I live -- to the suburbs with her grandmother, which was supposed to be temporary but ended up being permanent. At this point we rarely spend time together. I've done all I can to maintain what we had, but she doesn’t have a car and I live a train ride away. To top it all off we both have dogs, but they don’t get along so we can’t stay in one place together.

I have tried to show Suri love and have admitted all my mistakes. Still, I’m upset by her lack of reciprocal effort. I have gotten angry with her to the point where I say mean things to her and it sometimes escalates to hurtful words back and forth. The hurtful words are the excuse for us not getting together.

Now it has been over a month and we haven’t spoken. I even used your approach and told Suri I was seeing another girl, but it didn’t work. I sent a few e-mails and once heard back that she doesn’t know what to say. I suppose I shouldn’t want someone in my life who doesn’t seem to want to solve a problem. I can’t figure it out. It’s hard for me to get past this because I have feelings for Suri and there are qualities I really like about her; when we were together things were nice.

I could really use some coaching now as I’m at the end of my rope.

Odin - who’s tried everything

Doc Love's Answer:

Hi Odin,

You say you have read all of my articles and that you like my material. So when are you going to get my book? Why would you not go to the comprehensive source, “The System,” for everything having to do with women and dating, especially when you’re clearly having trouble? Are you waiting for things to get even worse? Does that make any sense?

Now wait a minute here. First you’re telling me that you don’t believe a man should fall into the trap of catering to a woman, and then you tell me that you’re a nice guy who likes to imitate a doormat for the ladies, including playing chef for them. So you actually do what you say you disagree with. In other words: You’re contradicting yourself here. Why are you so forgiving? What’s to forgive? Like my cousin Rabbi Love says: “You forgive, and then you get rid of her, my son.”

You say that Suri’s move to the suburbs turned out to be permanent. How do you know it wasn’t intended to be permanent? How do you know this babe wasn’t just looking for an excuse to get away from you? Like my Uncle Jethro Love says: “If this girl really liked you, she wouldn’t be moving in with her grandma!” She sure as heck wouldn’t be moving so far away that she has to get on a train to see you. To you Psych majors, when she likes you, she wants to get closer to you, not further away.

So now you have the issue of distance -- always a formidable enemy of love -- working against you. This means that this relationship is disintegrating. Lots of men like to blame the breakdown of a relationship on everything else except for the real cause: low Interest Level. This is something you’re doing, Odin, by talking about all the extraneous stuff that could be affecting your relationship with Suri. It’s called rationalization. This syndrome is what keeps most men out there from facing reality when it comes to women -- and I’m all about facing reality.

As if things weren’t bad enough already, now you and Suri even have problems with your dogs. You could take your two mutts to a dog whisperer and get them trained, have you thought of that? It wouldn’t help, though, because the problem is not the canines. Like my cousin General Love says: “The real problem is that when it comes to this girl, you’re weak, soldier.”

Why are you admitting mistakes? If you had my book you wouldn’t be making mistakes and, therefore, you wouldn’t have to be apologizing for Suri’s low Interest Level in you. There has been no reciprocal effort on her part because she doesn’t care enough to make an effort. If a girl doesn’t care, why would she try to fix anything? The most important factor in a relationship is the woman’s Interest Level, which all the psychiatrists and marriage counselors never talk about. Sadly for you, this woman’s Interest Level is down in the dirt.

To prove it, now you’re getting into arguments. You’re acting like a little kid, Odin. Arguing is not a mature way to deal with your problems. Until you memorize my materials and learn what Self-Control means, until you learn not to argue with women or attack them, you’re never going to be grown up enough for a long-term relationship. You have a huge problem here, Odin. It’s not Suri who’s the problem -- it’s you.

The hurtful words flying back and forth are not the excuse for you and Suri not getting together -- they’re the reason. If you’re going to be hurtful toward somebody, that person shouldn’t see you. Suri gets it, and you don’t.

So now it’s been a whole month since you've spoken to this girl, and you still haven’t ordered my book have you? You love my principles and techniques, you have got all these relationship problems and the answers are in the book -- but you’re writing me for help. Well, that’s why I wrote the book, pal. Everything you need is in it.

Telling Suri you’re seeing another girl is not going to work because she doesn’t give a hoot. Don’t kid yourself, she knows what to say. Like my cousin Sal “The Fish” Love says: “She just doesn’t know how to say you’re out, that’s all.” I have got news for you, Odin, women disappear when they don’t want anything to do with you. They don’t come right out and say you’re history. They don’t dig confrontations, so they just don’t answer your e-mail.

It’s not that Suri doesn’t want to solve a problem, dude. She just doesn’t want to be with you.

Remember, guys: If she doesn’t want to take her dog to training school, you don’t have a chance.

To hear my LOVE RADIO SHOW, send me your love questions or to find out more about “The System,” visit me at www.doclove.com or call (800) 404-2644. For the past 30 years Doc Love has asked thousands of women, “Why do you stay with one man versus another?”

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Becoming Socially Savvy‏

Just got back from the gym, and I've got a couple of hours to kill before it's time to hit the clubs. You know what that means.

Newsletter time.

As you may or may not know, I turned 30 not too long ago. Now, I know that this is just a number, but at the same time, it's a very round-looking number, with a three, and a zero.

I didn't get depressed or anything like that, but I did feel it was time to take stock of the direction my life was going in and make some changes, if necessary.

My game is pretty freakin tight. That's true. But I'm at the point where I no longer make huge conceptual leaps and bounds on a regular basis like I did when I first started.

At this point, it's like a trickle, a daily improvement of .1%. Now, I'm willing to concede that, where I'm standing right now, I might not be able to see the forest for the trees so to speak, and that in five years I'll look back and see my current game as child's play, but in all honesty that seems unlikely.

Studying more "game" isn't going to help make large leaps at this point. So I really started to scrutinize and see what I could change to get those kinds of jumps again.

The first thing I noticed was my beer gut. Now, for those who read my newsletter with regularity, you know that I started working out again a couple months ago. And that was a great step, granted.

The thing is, it's been sort of sporadic, as other things took priority. So now I've stepped things up to an almost religious zeal.

We've all heard the dogma, "Looks don't matter." And for the most part, this is true. But I've come to realize that there is a small segment of the female population that will screen me out because I'm not in the best shape.

Additionally, I think it's gross, and in the end, that's what matters the most. It's an inner game thing.

But ultimately, being in shape is not a "looks" issue. It's a HEALTH and VITALITY issue. I figure I could stand to lose about 15 pounds. That's roughly the same weight as two gallons of water.

Imagine carrying around two gallons of water with you. ALL THE TIME. Imagine how fatigued and annoyed you would get by this. This is how I've reframed this extra weight.

It gots to go.

The second thing I've done, and this actually goes hand in hand with the gut thing, is eliminate alcohol consumption.

Now, a lot of guys hear this and say, "Oh man... JLAIX is quitting alcohol? That's like America quitting oil!"

It's true that IDENTITY is an incredibly powerful thing. My identity as "jlaix the hard-drinking maniac in-field" served to create some very strong anchors to this behavior.

I got a lot of positive reinforcement out of it, because I had a lot of success. It got to the point where I had to drink in order to get into state.

But what I've come to realize is that identity is fluid. If an identity no longer serves you, you have the ability to change it to a new one that's more empowering.

So I've been going out for the past week or so sober as a mortician. And guess what? I get into state just as easily after hitting my warm-ups approaches.

Plus, I don't suffer from miscalibration issues, and I don't wake up feeling ill. This is simply what was necessary for me to proceed to the next level.

Look. This whole thing isn't an anti-drinking rant. Far from it. The point is, take a moment to assess your identity, and whether or not is is empowering you or holding you back.

And if there ARE elements that are holding you back, take the steps necessary to re-align things and create a NEW identity for yourself that will allow you to achieve more than you ever could with the current one.

Ok. Let's go ahead and take a couple of questions.

QUESTION:

How are you?

I just joined your newsletter and I am looking forward to learning this information.

A little about me:

I just ended a 10 yr long relationship and I am a free man again. I look forward to being in a relationship and settling down in the future but for now I just want to have as much fun as possible.

I am in my early 30's, in excellent physical and mental shape, can make people laugh with easy, been told I am attractive (I have already been featured in a world wide Ad campaign for a major computer company). However I never really played the dating game and I will like to have as MUCH FUN as possible now.

My initial question is:

In a room filled with dimes, should I just settle for just talking to just one. Would I seem like too much of a player if I try to talk to more than one. Can it be done? My purpose is to get to know as many women as possible because I don't know where any one might lead.

I am really selective as far as women so that helps reduce my options and I am really not a "player" but is talking to two or more women from one club taboo, ( a regular club of course not a swingers one...although I haven't gone to one of those )

Anyway, thanks and I look forward to your response and your future newsletter.

Mr Laid Back

MY REPLY:

Welcome to the newsletter.

First off, whenever I hear this "I'm really selective with women" thing, I start to worry. Because a lot of the time, guys use this as an EXCUSE or a RATIONALIZATION for their fear of approaching or their current failures.

Maybe this isn't the case with you, but I just wanted to throw that out there. Also take into account that for a guy who's a relative novice at the game, this can hold him back. You need to get good with women IN GENERAL before you can get that "one special girl."

But ok, let's talk about working the room filled with dimes.

First of all, I'd like to see this magical room. Where the hell is this? I think in my entire life, I've seen maybe two or three live girls I would consider tens. Then again, it's all a matter of semantics. But that gave me a chuckle.

Anyway, you're worried about coming off as a player if you work several girls in the room. Fair enough.

The thing is, I think you're approaching this with the wrong mindset. Some people come to this stuff and they think, "Yeah, I'm gonna be a PICK UP ARTIST." And sure, that's fine, but keeping with the theme of IDENTITY, I think this one can be sort of limiting, and moreover kind of CREEPY.

Instead, think of yourself as a guy who is outgoing and socially savvy.

You're not some creepy vulture circling the room and landing on girls.

You're a cool money guy, who is just incredibly friendly, and talks to everyone, GIVING VALUE. You're the life of the party. You're there, you're having a great time, and you just want to share the fun with everyone there. Talk to everyone, guys included (although not for too long lol).

Remember, the frame you put out to the world is generally what you'll get back. Keep the above in mind, and everything should be fine.

Besides, a little jealously plotline never hurt anybody.

Let me know how it goes.

Next caller:

SUCCESS STORY:

Hi to all of you,

Great bootcamp. Thanks!!

I just thought I'd share that I've been applying your instruction and that my mindset has expanded incredibily. I think one of your strengths, for me, was learning to see the environment as a place to meet women, anywhere, anytime.

So, at LAX on the way to Santa Fe, I talked to women at the security line and several different women while cued up at Southwest. The women behind me ended up being interesting and by the time we reached the ticket taker, he assumed we were a couple (!).

I sat next to her on the plane and got her phone/e-mail addresses. Not sure that it's going to go further, but it was an excellent opener. Then in Santa Fe, over the last four days, I've approached about eight women and had good opener conversations with two.

I even invited one to Starbucks after about a twenty minute talk.

This weekend is a festival in downtown Santa Fe, so I'm hoping to have more stories for you three from that. Then on to Boulder next week and following that back to Baltimore/Annapolis. I'll certainly keep you posted.

Mainly, I just wanted to share that I'm applying what you all taught and that it's incredible. I'm sure that I've a huge amount more to learn, but, for me, this is already a major step ahead.

--Tom

MY REPLY:

Tom, since you took the program in Los Angeles with Geoff, I decided to give him the opportunity to respond to you here:
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Tom,

Thanks for the success story. It's always great to hear the good news.

And as we talked about earlier as you're getting the hang of opening -- or we'll call it opening for real, the rest of your game is going to come up as well.

You have a great positive mindest, which is going to help you to see the small spurts in progress. Remember, though, once you hit the plateau, be cool and give it some time. After some time, then see if there are any minute changes that you need to make to get your game to where it needs to be.

Furthermore and lastly, e-mail us when you do hit a plateau and we'll work to troubleshoot your game. Reason is, because you're going to have a blindspot the size of texas when analyzing your own game.

~~RSD
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QUESTION:

Hey Jeffy,

Question for ya: I've seen all sorts of pick up material from different guys demonstrated to me. Each one of them has a different style and different personality, but each one still has killer game.

The problem with this for me, is that despite what style you choose, you gotta be congruent, right? So you can't just go and copy these guys' game because it might come off like a joker wearing 17 patches of different colored garb..

My question is, how do you go about choosing a style/personality for your pick up game from the gamut of different behaviors out there? How do you decide?

Jack in Irvine

MY REPLY:

IRVINE REPRE-SENT!!

I'm actually from South Orange County, CA myself. Lake Forest. A great place to visit, but... well, actually it's not even a great place to visit. Haaa just kidding, you've got some nice-looking girls down there and some awesome weather.

You're absolutely right in the fact that whatever style you choose, you need to come across congruently.

That said, however, bear in mind that it is possible to review the various styles out there, and take from each of them the stuff that works for YOU.

The great Bruce Lee did this when he developed his martial arts system, Jeet Kune Do. He realized that there's something to learn from everyone, and that every style has its time and place. He stressed being fluid, like water. After all, water is yielding, yet when focused, can erode mountains.

(By the way, you should check out Bruce Lee's book, The Way of Jeet Kune Do, it's absolute gold, and not just for kicking ass.)

So again, pick and choose that which works for YOU.

Eventually, you will develop "Jack from Irvine Style." Get it?

So okay kids (I'm 30, I can say that), I've got 7 minutes before I've got to go out, so I'm gonna wrap this puppy up here.

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In many ways, it's an encyclopedia of pick up, a virtual bootcamp that you can experience over and over again from the comfort of your own home. Tyler covers the entire spectrum of topics, from the walk up to the phone game, putting it down in the way that only he can.

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All right, club time. See you later.

Sincerely,

Jeffy, Executive Coach
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Do You Have To Be "Mr. Perfect"?‏

by Scot McKay

THE "85/15 RULE"

The other day I was on the phone with a guy who is going through the Ten-Plus Program.

For those of you who may not be familiar with Ten-Plus, it's a guided 1-on-1 program that's custom designed to take you from where you are RIGHT NOW to where you WANT TO BE with women...all in about 90 days and over the course of ten carefully planned meetings (either via phone or face-to-face).

Well, every Ten-Plus experience is different because every one of US is different.

As fortune would have it, on this day we were talking about how to use one's VOICE to project confidence and masculinity--two cornerstones of the "Big Four", of course.

In the case of my friend on the other end of the phone (and on the other side of the world), he had gone for literally DECADES without realizing how his manner of speaking had been CRATERING his chances with women.

Being all about promoting his future success, I shared with him some objective ways he could effectively alter his speech patterns to become infinitely more attractive while still being his authentic, true self.

Believe me, having been there before, I was all about being the voice of encouragement.

In my heart and mind, I knew my friend would see a DRAMATIC difference in how his interactions with women went...if only he'd take the next few weeks to intentionalize just a few new habits.

But on the other end of the phone, all I heard at first was DISCOURAGEMENT.

"Aw man...I realize now that I've been doing what we're talking about for over THIRTY YEARS. How can I expect to COMPLETELY ERADICATE these bad habits? That sounds all but IMPOSSIBLE."

That's when I told him about how the "85/15 Rule" works when it comes to the finer points of attraction.

Basically, the "85/15 Rule" says that if you can get the basics of masculinity and confidence down just 85% of the time, you'll have done what it takes to convince a woman you're the REAL DEAL.

That's right. YOU DON'T HAVE TO BE PERFECT.

Remember, women are HUMAN BEINGS just like you. Unless they're a rare variety of psycho, I promise they aren't sitting around waiting for you to misstep in the slightest so they can cut you off.

Yeah, yeah. I don't care what the PUA crowd says. Even the hottest women on earth are NOT going to demand PERFECTION from you.

In fact, are you sitting down for this?

If you ARE "Mr. Perfect", you may as well be "Mr. Nice Guy" while you're at it.

Why?

Simple...you're going to come off as "Mr. Impossible" in the end if you're EITHER "Mr. Perfect" or "Mr. Nice Guy".

Here it is: She's flat-out going to think you're faking it. She's going to think you have an "agenda".

And to make matters worse, coming off like you want to be "Mr. Perfect" has an even WORSE angle: She's going to feel she CAN'T LIVE UP to your "flawless execution".

Look, we already know that many, many women--especially the particularly attractive ones--are VERY self-conscious. They don't want to "mess up" any more than you do on a date.

And how about this? Remember the THIRD part of the "Big Four"? You know, INSPIRING CONFIDENCE.

If you seem like you can do NO WRONG, all you're doing is making her feel MORE self-conscious and MORE like she needs to walk on eggshells so as not to humiliate herself somehow.

Think I'm kidding? Here's a gut check for you: Have you ever gone on a PERFECT DATE, only to have the woman RUN AWAY and never be heard from again afterward?

And are you STILL trying to piece together what could possibly have gone awry?

I'm telling you...your act could have been TOO together. A little ketchup on the cuff or trip over the shoelaces could have actually put her at ease.

And yes...maybe ONE SMALL hint at genuine interest a bit too early or ONE SLIGHT OVERREACTION to something she said may have actually been a GOOD THING for you to have mixed in there.

Again, not enough to paint you as a needy, high-strung Chihuahua or a "desperado"...but JUST ENOUGH to make her bite her lower lip in the slightest, sexiest way and think, "You know what, I think he might like me after all."

By now you may be thinking I've been spending too much time tuning 2-stroke engines with the garage door closed again.

But if you don't believe me, believe Emily. I can still remember the first time I lost my cool about something in her presence...all of about three weeks after we started dating.

She THANKED me afterward. To my utter shock and awe, she told me she felt MORE AT EASE knowing I messed stuff up sometimes.

No kidding, for a few awkward minutes there before she said anything, I thought she was about to walk out of my life forever.

So no, women don't demand or even WANT "perfection".

What they want is a MAN who is a masculine and confident at his core...but still a HUMAN BEING who they can relate to.

That's where the "85/15" part comes in.

Now to be perfectly clear, we're talking about MASCULINITY and CONFIDENCE here.

You can't expect to make her feel unsafe in your presence 15% of the time or commit blatant breaches of character 15% of the time.

It might be "one strike and your out" on the bigger stuff, as well it should be.

But if in your normal, day-to-day interactions with her you can portray solid masculine confidence at least about 85% of the time, then the small number of mistakes won't do you in.

She'll consider the REAL you to be the confident, masculine version she's USED to having in her life.

And think about it, if she runs her own feminine version of 85/15 around you, won't YOU feel tons more at ease interacting with her? Thought so.

But the problem is that in today's feminized culture many, many guys only feel it's required to MAN UP about 15% of the time...if that.

The rest of the time? It's "Neuter City", baby.

There's' GOOD NEWS though.

By now I've spent a LOT of time coaching a LOT of guys, and here's something I've found to be almost universally true: If a man is willing to apply himself to breaking an old habit in favor of a newer, better one he REALLY CAN go from "15/85" to "85/15" very quickly.

Sometimes it's literally a matter of a FEW DAYS.

But most of us are too complacent to do anything about what's holding us back.

OR...we NEVER FIND OUT WHAT IT IS that's been holding us back.

How's THAT for a scary thought?

Seriously. Our FRIENDS aren't going to tell us. And usually the WOMEN we go out with themselves will NEVER SAY ANYTHING...they just won't answer the phone the next time you call.

And THAT is exactly why the Ten-Plus program is so powerful. Because Ten-Plus is a custom-crafted experience, you can expect personalized attention to taking you from GOOD to GREAT with women...whatever that means.

Right now I have EXACTLY THREE Ten-Plus program openings for the summer.

In addition, we are booking a select few Ten-Plus Live experiences here in San Antonio for guys who want to put Emily and me to work for them. Ten-Plus Live is an intensive, life-changing 36-hour program that consistently gets SIGNIFICANT, MEASURABLE RESULTS in record time.

By now you know that I've gone through my fair share of tough times in the past and can relate to just about any challenge. What's very real to you is likely very real to me too.

But by now you also know that I have been passionate about finding SOLUTIONS to the quandaries of understanding and relating to women for over seven years now.

My track record stands alone as a testament to what's possible. I'm no "natural born lady killer", and you most certainly don't have to be either.

But one thing's for sure. There are high quality women out there waiting for YOU to get your act together. (Well...at least 85% together, right?)

If you're finally ready for real-world results, I'm available to you. Simply drop me a note:

scot@deservewhatyouwant.com

When you write me, tell me what your unique sticking points are. Share also a bit about where you are today compared to where you'd love to be when it comes to living your vision of success with women.

You have my word that I will respond to your message, and I'll work directly with you to decide if Ten-Plus and/or Ten-Plus Live is the right fit for you.

Here's my address again. It's your direct line of communication:

scot@deservewhatyouwant.com

Have a great week. I'll write you again soon with YET ANOTHER golden principle of relationship management that you can begin using RIGHT AWAY.

Be Good,

Scot McKay.

Want to hear more?

Scot McKay is the founder of X & Y Communications, a one-stop-shop for dating resources. He is the author of the book 'Deserve What You Want', and hosts the popular podcast series 'X & Y On The Fly' with his fiancée Emily. Sign up for the unique and entertaining newsletter here and receive a FREE GIFT.

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Today, let's meet Ashley Cormier, a glamour model originally from New Orleans, Louisiana but now living in Houston, Texas. Born and raised in Louisiana, Ashley earned the nickname “Barbie” due to her striking beauty, poise, and presence. Beginning at the age of four, she was led into a very successful pageantry career, ultimately winning over 20 pageant titles, including Miss Southern Louisiana. Additionally, she studied ballet for 8 years and performed in seasonal programs.

In high school Ashley was actively involved in track and field, and she was an All-American cheerleader. She also wrote an editorial column for her local city newspaper, excelled in academics, and graduated salutatorian or her high school class. She attended the University of New Orleans where I was a Privateer dancer, and even earned a spot on the New Orleans Saints Sensations cheerleading squad. Now residing in Dallas, Texas, Ashley is quickly gaining exposure and attention in the entertainment industry as an up and coming print, video, and internet model. She has been featured in a number of men’s magazines including Smooth Magazine and has been a regular presence in urban and hip-hop websites. Ashley hopes that her modeling career will lead to a career in Hollywood.

Ashley describes herself as outgoing, fun-loving, warm person who has a tendency to be pretty spontaneous and do shocking and outrageous things at the heat of the moment. As for dating, Ashley loves men who are fit, smart, and attentive to their women. She ultimately prefers a man who is a gentleman. He would have the old-fashioned qualities of opening the door, pulling out the chair and ordering for her. Her perfect first date would be going to a five star restaurant, followed by a trip to the beach where they discuss their future goals in life while gazing at the stars. Ashley is turned off by overly aggressive men, smokers and overweight guys.

Ashley says when a gentleman attempts to approach her in public, he should approach her respectfully, say his name, and start a simple, intelligent conversation. She says she's willing to let a man make his first move on her when she twirls her hair, smiles and gets very flirty.

If you would like to know more about this voluptuous ebony vixen, this check out her profile at http://www.myspace.com/ashleycormier.

Fear of Approaching Women? Read This...‏

by Scott Patterson

There are many obstacles a man has to overcome if he wants INCREDIBLE success with women. But there is ONE hurdle that causes the MOST problems for guys---The FEAR of approaching women.

If you've EVER been nervous before starting a conversation then you've experienced some form of this fear. Typically this is where you feel a STRONG psychological AND physical reaction right before walk over to start talking to a girl. For some guys, this anxiety is SO bad that it PARALYZES them into doing NOTHING.

To be honest, overcoming this fear can be a lengthy process for many guys. That's why in this email, I'm NOT going to over an entire system for handling this problem. That's because a REAL solution requires a lot more information then I typically include in my 1000+ word emails.

But with that being said, I wanted to quickly reveal how a simple SHIFT in your mindset can have an incredible impact on how you handle your fear of approaching women.

In the past, I was like a lot of men. My fear of approaching left me unable to start the simplest of conversations with women who I found attractive. And even though I knew WHY I had this problem, I simply couldn't find a way to solve it!

After reading a lot on the subject and trying different things out, I learned a valuable lesson--- Most of what they call "approach anxiety" is caused by the way that you look at the OUTCOME of the conversation. Here's what I mean...

Think of what happens when you see an attractive girl. You wonder what it's like to talk to her. What it's like to date her. What it's like to have sex with her. And maybe what it's like to be in a relationship with her.

SO before you've said ANYTHING to her, you're already going through different scenarios in your head. And what's funny is you don't even KNOW if you'll even LIKE talking to this girl!!!

In a way, you're creating a nice, safe FANTASY where you imagine this girl in your life. It's a comfortable feeling. You don't have to take a risk. Basically you have nothing to LOSE when you live in this imaginary world.

The MAJOR problem is this--- It's STILL a fantasy! It's one thing to have this girl in your imagination. It's another to actually HAVE to walk up to her and start a conversation. And you start to wonder things like:

"What if she ignores me?"
"What if she starts laughing at me?"
"What if she doesn't like me?"
"What if her 300 lb. boyfriend kicks my ass?"

Now I'm not going to belittle these feelings. These are genuine concerns that a lot of guys have. The problem is SO many men feel that it's much SAFER to live in an IMAGINARY world over being with a girl than to actually go over and talk to her.

By going over and risking "rejection" there is a feeling that they could LOSE what they've already gained. In other words, It's more secure to live in a imaginary world than to have this dream shattered by a girl who is NOT interested

BOTTOM LINE - A lot of men go through life living in a "fear of loss" over a desire for gain.

In my opinion, this problem can be reduced (or eliminated) by understanding the principle of "Outcome Orientation". This is where a guy almost compulsively dwells on what COULD happen.

A man like this wants a girl SO badly that he worries about all the different negative possibilities. And most of the time, this fear basically paralyzes him into doing NOTHING.

So what's the solution?

Well the solution is VERY easy to explain, but it's hard for a lot of guys to ACTUALLY do....Before you approach ANY woman, you have to remove yourself from ALL expectations.

FIRST - DON'T put ANY girl on a pedestal. She's a person just like you and me. Don't waste time in an imaginary world where she's this perfect angel who has been put on this earth just for you.

ALL women have flaws just like the rest of us. So wasting time thinking about how you have to *have* this girl. If you find yourself thinking that she's the PERFECT girl, imagine her possessing ANY quality that YOU find repulsive.

Next - STOP thinking about what COULD go wrong. Remember that 90% of failed approaches aren't that bad. At worst, she'll be rude and not respond to your conversation starter. And most girls will at LEAST be polite even if they're not interested.

In my experience, I have almost NEVER experienced a bad approach where I felt socially rejected. Even if a girl isn't interested, it's not as bad as what happens in your imagination.

Third - Replace these "outcome orientation" thoughts with a NEW mindset. Remind yourself that you're simply STARTING A CONVERSATION! You're not trying to have sex with this girl. And you're not trying to marry her. You're actually trying to screen HER and see if YOU are interested!

This creates a sense of empowerment where you put yourself in the role of the selector over being the selectee. One way to create this mindset is to write the following on a piece of paper:

"I am going to talk to this girl and see if I like her. It's just a conversation. Nothing more. Maybe if she's interested, I will consider asking for her number"

Write down a variation of this statement that YOU are comfortable with. Then memorize it. And recite this to yourself before you approach ANY girl.

This affirmation statement is a great tool for overcoming a fear of approaching women. It can replace your "outcome orientation" with a powerful mindset where you're simply living in the moment.

You'll STOP worrying about the outcome of a conversation. You'll respond better to the things she's saying. And you'll simply become a fun, attractive guy.

A fear of approaching women really comes down to the words you say to yourself. And if you find that your thoughts are CONSUMED by the outcome, then you might need to change this mindset. Simply use the techniques I discussed in this message and you'll take that first step towards overcoming approach anxiety!

To your success with women,

Scott Patterson
Chick Magnet 101

P.S. One of the FASTEST ways to overcome approach anxiety is to know the RIGHT way to start a conversation. This site can teach you how:

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It's true — I've tried everything in attracting women and attracting women fast...

I've spent a fortune buying dating books, attending seminars and dating women; I've learned a great deal from excellent courses and even books that are plain rubbish; I've had countless dates that ended in my bedroom and ones that ended with a slap in the face...

And here's the absolute truth that's proven to me time and time again:

Brilliant pick up lines, various approaching techniques, covert language patterns, "Prize Psychology", hypnosis scripts, outlandish clothing, NLP, Pheromone sprays, the "right" attitudes... NONE of those will ever work unless you're good at making women laugh.

Because humor is the shortcut to attraction. Keep reading!

Sexual Polarity and ‘The High Heels Secret’

by Derek Vitalio

Hey , there's a HUGE problem men and women have today and it screws up almost ALL relationships...

...AND it makes it HARD to MEET women (you're probably making this very same mistake too).

Here's the problem: If you want women to become attracted for you, you have to nurture and increase the POLARITY.

In this new video, I share with you why many relationships go bad because of weak polarity and reveal a way to make women act and dress super-sexy for you, while winning awe and respect in their eyes.

It's called "The High Heels Secret" ;) Click on the video below to watch.



Your friend,

Derek Vitalio

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Could you approach this hottie at the supermarket and know exactly what to say and do to make her desire you... or will you have to let her get away and live with the regret again?

Don't let this happen to you. Find out how you can approach this hottie...

MySpace Hottie of the day - Kellie Pickler

Today, as we celebrate the birth of America, let's meet an all-American sweetheart, Kellie Pickler, a country music singer originally from Albemarle, North Carolina. Since late 2005, this Carlina cutie has been living life in fast forward. Landing a spot on the 5th season of American Idol, Kellie made it all the way to the top six, a finish good enough to guarantee her a place on the American Idol tour. Her unmistakable talent and star quality also earned her a recording contract in Nashville; she barely had time to catch her breath before she was in her new label chief’s office on Music Row, discussing her future as their new artist, a future that was taking off before she even had her seat belt fastened. She had turned 20 the month before.

She recorded her first album in between dates on the grueling 60-city/90-day American Idol tour. “Every day off I was in the studio,” she recalls. “Either they were flying out to meet me somewhere or I was flying back to Nashville to record. I had written five songs for that record—“I Wonder,” “My Angel” and “Red High Heels”—but every song I didn’t write, I had to learn in the studio the day we recorded it. I don’t remember anything about recording that album. It was all a blur.”

The album Small Town Girl, a reference to Kellie’s upbringing in tiny Albemarle, was released on Halloween, 2006, and she was off on another whirlwind of radio visits, media appearances and concerts, meeting and rubbing shoulders with her childhood heroes - particularly Dolly Parton; opening Brad Paisley’s tour, where she became fast friends with another country newcomer, Taylor Swift. Her album was certified Gold just three months after its release, and yielded three top 15 singles. She was, without a doubt, one of country music’s It Girls.

Barely one year after she hit the ground running with her debut album, she was given a coveted slot on the national broadcast of the 41st CMA Awards. which aired on November 7th, 2007, Lit by a single spotlight that dramatically revealed her fragile vulnerability, she offered a heart-wrenching performance of “I Wonder,” the yearning song she had written about the mother who abandoned her as a child. With tears streaming down her face, Kellie finished the song, seemingly bent double in pain, and the audience rose to its feet in empathy, many in the crowd shedding tears with her.

While the emotional waterloo seemed the obvious consequence of a very public confession of need and longing, there was actually far more turmoil roiling beneath the surface. “That should have been one of the most magical nights of my life, career-wise,” she says. “But in my personal life, I was so depressed. I was going through a break-up, which was bad enough. Then, right before I was to go on stage, I got a call from someone back home telling me that my mother had shown up, and was talking to the press. It was all too much, and I just broke down on stage.

“That was such a hard time for me. On the surface, I had everything a girl could ask, everything I dreamed about, but I was miserable and crying myself to sleep. I was so lonely. I wrote an email to [songwriter] Aimee Mayo and at the end I said, ‘I just want someone to love me.’ It was 3 in the morning, but she answered right back. She said, ‘We have to write that!’ Leave it to a songwriter!”

That answer from a true friend in the middle of one of Kellie’s darkest nights began the healing journey. “The best therapy in the world to me is writing. I can’t express what writing has given to me - every sadness, every hurt, every tear, and every happiness. Writing works for me. Even though I broke down singing it that night, ‘I Wonder’ was actually empowering. In that song, I was a little girl who was left, but in the end, was the one who left, I was the one in control and went to Tennessee. It really is about accepting what you can’t change, not blaming yourself for things you had no control over, and overcoming situations to move on. Now, I can sing it from a place of strength, for people in the audience who need to hear that message, who aren’t there yet.”

A crucial part in getting where she is now was taking charge of her second album, and she embraced the challenge wholeheartedly. “The first year after my record came out was a crash course in the music business. I was barely 20 years old, and I had to learn how to basically be the CEO of a company, the Kellie Pickler Company. I had no training for anything like that. I had never been anywhere and wasn’t exposed to anything outside of Albemarle. When most girls my age are picking what classes they’ll take and what sorority to join, I was trying to decide on a manager, a lawyer, a business manager, hire a band, record an album, sing in front of 50,000 people, and sell enough records to keep all that going and pay all those people who rely on you. I know from some media I did that people may have thought of me as ditzy or not very bright. But you can’t survive in this business and not be knowledgeable, or you won’t be in this business very long.

“When I look back on who I was when I started in this business, I see a naïve and gullible girl. I was so uneducated about the world. I grew up in public and I made some mistakes. It’s so important to surround yourself with good people. I had to do some filtering personally and professionally. I built an all new team and when it came time to do this record, I was ready.”

She chose Chris Lindsey to produce, a songwriter/musician/producer she met even before moving to Nashville. “Because we have written together, there is a solid chemistry there between us. I trusted him, we were friends so it was very comfortable for me.”

The first songs Kellie co-wrote for the album were “get back” songs: “Rocks Instead of Rice” written with Josh Kear and Chris Tompkins (writers of Carrie Underwood’s “Before He Cheats”), crashes an ex’s wedding, and fantasizes about replacing the traditional good luck, send off with something with a bit more heft. “Best Days of Your Life’ written with Taylor Swift, delivers a strong message to a boyfriend she is leaving behind, that his best days are already behind him.

It was the next two songs that proved to be the catharsis Kellie needed in her personal life. “Somebody to Love Me” had its start in the wee hours of the morning email Kellie had written to Aimee Mayo. Shortly after Kellie returned from entertaining US troops in Iraq, they picked up the thread with Chris Lindsey and the three wrote “Somebody To Love Me.” Later that day, they wrote “One Last Time,” with fellow songwriter Kyle Jacobs.

In Kellie’s delivery and the spare production of these searingly honest and poignant pleas, her pain is so palpable listeners will be taken to that exact moment in their own lives. But ultimately for Kellie, those songs were liberation. “As soon as I wrote those two songs, that internal switch that we all have in our hearts turned, and I was done. I could walk away from it. I’ve learned you can’t just think with your heart, because your heart will steer you wrong sometimes. If you love someone who isn’t good for you, you have to smarten up. In order to have good come into your life, you have to let go of the bad in your life, and trust that good will find room, and come in.”

“Don’t You Know You’re Beautiful,” is more than a song, it’s a statement from Kellie, who chose the upbeat tune to lead off her self-titled second album. Urging inner strength, independence and confidence, the first single from Kellie Pickler introduces Kellie as she is today, a resilient young woman who has wrestled with insecurity, endured tragedy, suffered heartbreak and celebrated triumph on a winding road to maturity, self-awareness and newfound happiness.

Though she didn’t write “Don’t You Know You’re Beautiful,” “I’m Your Woman,” “Don’t You Know How Much I Loved You,” “Makin’ Me Fall in Love Again,” and “Lucky Girl” all of them resonated with some experience in her life of the last two years. “There isn’t a single song on this record that I didn’t live, that I didn’t love. The hardest part was narrowing it down. The whole record is balanced—there’s heartbreak, revenge, in love and happy, empowerment, and sassy songs. This record is an update of where I’ve been, emotionally, mentally and physically, in the two years since my first album.”

The album’s last cut, written with the same group of friends who penned “One Last Time” is a long way from that song’s raw emotion, and makes room for fun, laughter, celebration and joy. “I was in Vegas at the end of the Rascal Flatts tour, doing our last show. As a thank you they gave me a gift card to Saks Fifth Avenue with an obscene amount of money on it! I am always talking about going to Saks and looking at Christian Louboutin shoes. Everyone knows I love shoes. They make me happy when I’m sad and happier when I’m happy. I was thinking about all the shoes I could buy with this gift card. I was like ‘Holy Cow! I have to go to Saks now!’ On the way to Saks I said ‘I want to be cremated, not buried. I wonder if I could have my ashes sprinkled over the Saks shoe department”’ And the song was born.”

Kellie is positively exuberant these days. Through loneliness, uncertainty, vulnerability and heartbreak, the naïve 19 year old small town girl has blossomed into a strong, independent, fearlessly feminine young woman who is nobody’s fool. “If I could have told the girl that I was anything, I would have told her not to be ashamed, to love herself. I would have given her self-confidence. The last two years have taught me that. When you’re starting out everyone thinks they know what’s best for you, that they know you better than you. And you’re so new, you don’t want to make anyone mad. I wasn’t completely able to be myself. But this is me, this is who I am. I look forward to every day. I’m happier than I’ve ever been and I feel ready for anything.”

If you would like to know more about this charming, resilient songbird or listen to tracks from her self-titled album, check out her profile at http://www.myspace.com/kelliepickler.

How To Meet More Women

by David DeAngelo

QUESTION:

Please come ‘round here and kill me -- I am so pathetic. I've read your book twice now and should be putting some of it to good use, but it seems that I am completely inept at doing so. Lately, I've just been talking to this fine young lady at the gym (by the way, I've been out of circulation for quite some time now since my divorce and I'm way out of practice). Anyway, I was just talking to her and all of a sudden I started to go into wuss mode -- I even forgot her name as soon as she told me, so I asked for it again. So pathetic! I also hung around for a little bit too long, and I never asked for her e-mail.

Now I would really like to get to know this girl, take her out on a date etc., but I'm really sure that I've blown my chances. Although she seemed interested -- apart from the forgetting her name. Next time I see her I really want to recover the situation and act properly; maybe I should pretend to forget her name again and make a joke of it. What do you think? Any advice would be greatly appreciated. By the way, your last news letter was awesome, very informative. I just hope that I can put it to some good use and become a "Jedi Master."

Best regards,
AM, Lancaster, England.

MY COMMENTS:

Hey, you're doing fine. Every one of us is in a different place in life, and you're going to get this figured out. The more you deal with attractive women, the more relaxed you'll naturally become, and the more easily you'll remember to do the things you need to do in these situations.

Next time you see this woman, just go about your business and see if she starts talking to you. If not, no big deal.

The second time you see her at the gym, talk to her. At that point casually say, "Hey, do you have e-mail?" Then get it and leave immediately -- have somewhere you're going -- don't linger.

Send her a charming e-mail and meet her for tea. You're doing great.

QUESTION:

Honestly, Dave, I think you need more caution and warning signs on your products before some knucklehead tries to sue you for loading his life with more women than the poor soul knows how to handle. I've followed your newsletter, purchased your eBook and Advanced Series -- totally incredible stuff. I dated my high school sweetheart for the better portion of five years and, honestly, if I knew way back then what I know now it probably wouldn't have lasted five months. She was always demanding and got upset when I tried to hang out with friends of mine; she was pretty much your average basket case, but I felt like she was the only girl that I could ever attract. Then I managed to stumble over your site and signed up for your newsletter and not long after I cut the ties with her, and I am happier today and date more interesting, intelligent women than I ever thought possible.

I would say that my greatest problem is that I'm generally a pretty low-key, mellow kind of guy that doesn't mind going out to clubs, but would far rather find a few girls that don't mind chilling out at home or enjoying a walk on the beach, stargazing or, hell, just wrestling around on the bed. However, if these girls tend to stay homebound for the most part, what sort of venues would you recommend for meeting these types.

MY COMMENTS:

Well, first off, I want to thank you for the shameless promotion and over-hyping of my materials. I appreciate it.

Next, let's talk about your "wish list."

You "don't mind going out to clubs," but you'd "far rather find a few girls that don't mind chilling at home or enjoying a walk on the beach, stargazing or, hell, just wrestling around on the bed."

With each other, I'm assuming. Hey, sounds good to me.

Maybe while they're wrestling they'd let you videotape and you could start an internet company based on the concept. Cut me in for a percentage. And ya know; I like the way you think. Well, I hate to break the news to you, but if you want to meet women, you're going to have to do something.

The internet-bed-wrestling-make-money idea was a pretty good one. Hey, kill two birds with one stone.

Other than that, you might try out a few of those magical activities that are interesting, enjoyable and also draw intelligent, gorgeous women like a magnet.

Try an art history class. Or go to a classy "food fair" or restaurant opening. Hit a yoga class or a kickboxing/aerobics class. Dance classes are also a big winner.

In other words, there are some great places you can go to meet women -- and have fun -- and become a more interesting, classy guy.

Who'd a thunk it?

QUESTION:

I'm real sorry, but I still cannot figure out how to build bridges after getting the e-mail address. Normally the next day I send the lady an e-mail, she replies and then I can't think what on earth else to do. My overall goal is to get with her -- so can you help me man?

I.M.

MY COMMENTS:

Yes, I think I can help.

1. Set up a meeting for tea.
2. Have her stop by your place on the way to tea.
3. Have fun, interesting conversation.
4. Invite her back to your place after tea.
5. Use the Kiss Test.
6. Use your creativity and imagination.

Don't focus too much on "getting with her," just focus on getting to the next step. In other words, when you e-mail, don't say something like:

"Hi, it was great meeting you. I'm single and nice, and you seem like you'd make a great girlfriend for a sweet, desperate loser like me."

Stay off of heavy conversation. Don't talk about relationships and marriage, etc. Just talk and enjoy yourself. Keep progressing as you do.

As long as you relax and make each progressive step easy and natural, you'll be fine.

Again, just take it one step at a time.

If you don't know what the "Kiss Test" is, then download my online eBook right now and read about it: DatingTechniques.com.

David DeAngelo

David DeAngelo is the author of the book Double Your Dating: What Every Man Should Know About How To Be Successful With Women, and several other products that can help men become more successful with women and dating. He also publishes a free online Dating Tips newsletter, available at www.DoubleYourDating.com.

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Unfortunately, most men will never have the kind of success with women that they would like. Why is that?

One reason is that they don't know what to do to attract women, and they keep doing the same old things over and over again that aren't working! This leads them to thinking that attractive women are bitches and that they can't attract the kind of woman that they want, so they settle (while kidding themselves that this is what they really want).

The other reason and most important reason is that they do nothing about it!!! They just sit back and take what luck will throw at them! Look, I'm telling you, this is a BAD idea and will surely lead you to a less fulfilling life and also into the hands of a partner who is NOT emotionally strong and physically attractive as the kind of woman that I'm sure you want to have.

If you want to learn what it really takes to transform your success with women right now, using the fastest and most effective methods that exist - then you have to hear everything I'm going to share with you. It's that important.

Love In An Elevator?‏

by David Wygant

I had a great coaching session with a client recently, and what he wanted to talk about is something I suspect is something a LOT of you can relate to (and may have been wanting to know as well).

What is one place you may have ALWAYS wanted to know how to start a conversation with a woman...

...but you just can never think of a good thing to say?

Have you ever been standing not three feet away from a beautiful woman in an elevator -- just the two of you and 25 floors worth of time (and, too many times, awkward silence)?

Or...

Do you see that same woman you'd love to meet every day in the elevator of your building either at work or home -- BUT you just don't know how to strike up a conversation in those precious few shared "elevator time" minutes?

Well this was exactly what my client wanted to know.

Read below to see what I told him...

(HINT: There is an EASY way to meet women in elevators)

>>NOTE: If you've ever wished you could be like my client here and be standing next to me as I PERSONALLY approach women or when I am showing REAL CLIENTS how to do it, then be sure to check out this page cause this is something you will ABSOLUTELY want to see:

http://www.davidwygant.com/20-ways-to-meet-hotter-women-without-pickup-lines.html

So here is the what I told my client about meeting women in elevators...

ACTUAL CLIENT COACHING SESSION

Client: "How do you open women in elevators? I spend so much time in elevators - in my building, I'm in the elevator 20 times a day."

David: "Let's talk about elevators. Approaching someone in an elevator is the easiest thing in the entire world. Both men and women can use this technique - any person can use it.

Once again, you have to play the odds and the percentages. What do people do when they get into an elevator?"

Client: "They hit the button and they look up at the screen."

David: "Right, they hit the button, they look up at the screen, and they don't say a word. Even if two people are in the elevator and already talking, the minute you walk in they shut up, right?

So what I will do in an elevator is this: If I'm alone with somebody in there, I will look at her and I will say, "What floor may I get you?"

She'll say, "Oh, I already pushed the button."

I'll then respond, "You know what's missing in elevators? Concierge service! Wouldn't it be great if they still had the old-fashioned elevator rides? Have you ever gone to New York City in some of the old apartment buildings with the elevator operators? Wouldn't it be great if all the elevators had elevator guys? And maybe even someone who like told a story or something? That way, you can be entertained on the way up, and you don't have to think about the shit you have to do at work that day, or whatever it is."

That's one elevator approach.

Here's another...

If there's a group of people in there when you walk in, they get quiet.

I will walk in and say, "Shhh! Quiet now. Don't end the conversation because of me! What is it with the elevator - it's unbelievable! Every time some stranger walks in and there is a group that knows each other, everyone stops talking! I'd much rather you guys keep talking! If it's something interesting, I can participate and we can all have some fun! Why do we always have to just stare at the numbers?"

Another elevator approach that I've used is that the minute that the doors close, I say, "Alright, let's all look at the numbers right now and count out loud together like we're in kindergarten again. One...two...buckle my shoe. Three...four...shut the door," or whatever - you just do a children's rhyme.

So just go in and have fun. And once you get the humor out of the way, you can say, "Hey, do you work in this building?" and then you can get into a conversation."

Client: "I like this approach too, if I get into the elevator and there's just another person, I can say, "Why is it always so quiet in elevators?" and just use that as the opener."

David: "That's it! It doesn't matter - you can use them all. There are so many different things that you can do, but the bottom line is that it's always all about pointing out the obvious.

Everything that I talk about, and everything that I do, is all about pointing out the obvious.

If you don't point out the obvious, you just become like every other person.

You're looking for the perfect opener, it has to be PERFECT - And guess what? There is no perfect opener. It's just about how you deliver it.

You can walk into a place and say absolutely anything - it all depends on how you deliver it."

By the way, if you want to learn the best ways to make your approaches and early connections with women be a complete SUCCESS, and if you want to learn the best ways to approach women with complete confidence (but without using any "lines" or routines), then this is a letter you need to check out:

http://www.davidwygant.com/20-ways-to-meet-hotter-women-without-pickup-lines.html

Also, be sure to watch for my future newsletters where I will be revealing more SECRETS and TIPS for creating the incredible dating life you want.

Until next time ...

Your Friend,

David

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Are you stressed about whether or not you are a good kisser? Is there someone you really like that you really want to kiss but don't know how? Do you want to try French kissing but are too embarrassed to ask how to do it? Do you want to make sure your boyfriend or girlfriend loves how you kiss so much that they can't get enough of you? Or do you just want to make sure that you never make a kissing mistake, like trying to kiss someone all wrong?

I know how you feel. I've been there, too! Everyone has to learn how to kiss at some point in their lives. The problem is that it's too weird to ask anyone for advice, and kissing a pillow just doesn't seem to do the trick!

That's why I created Kissing 101: Your Complete Guide to Kissing Tips and Techniques. It's got everything you need to know about kissing ... without the embarrassment of having to ask someone or find out yourself the hard way!

Now, if you want to become a confident and amazing kisser right now, then you have to hear everything I'm going to share with you. It's that important.

MySpace Hottie of the day - Raquel Reigns

Today, let's meet Raquel Reigns, a glamour model from Bronx, New York. This luscious Latina of Puerto Rican and Dominican heritage spent her childhood around the globe, being raised in locales such as New York City, Germany, Dominican Republic, Puerto Rico, New Jersey, and Philadelphia before settling in the Bronx. Growing up she was very rough around people and pretty much stuck to herself for the fact nobody took care of her. In addition she was exposed to a lot of the seedy side of life at a young age. Socializing with others was very difficult for her, and she mostly spent her days just trying to survive the right way.

Nevertheless, she dreamed of becoming a model, and she began her modeling a little over a year ago. She is still up-and-coming in the business, but she has already been featured in King and Smooth magazines and several regional and hip-hop publications. She's also a budding entrepreneur, as she is working on forming her own vintage sneaker shop.

Despite her very ample bosoms and posterior, Raquel says the sexiest part of her body is her eyes. She says anyone can see what type of mood she is in just by looking. As for her ideal man, Raquel wants a man who is understanding, intelligent, smooth, funny, and loyal.

If you would like to know more about this curvaceous chica, check out her profile at http://www.myspace.com/seduction23fou.